Imagine the parents who love their children, but after the children have gone off into the world, the children stop loving their parents.
Or, think about the person who loves another dearly but the ‘loved’ ignores the ‘one who loves’.
Advice for the person who loves another but is not loved in return:
… there’s nothing worse today than the ungrateful child… When children do not keep the Commandments (of God and of the Church) it’s a heartbreak that nobody can even begin to understand.
Unrequited love is one of the worse things in the world. You love them, very obviously, they don’t love you.
You’ve given them an education. You’ve given them everything that they have and they’ve left. They don’t want the responsibility of taking care of you, or your husband.
That kind of ingratitude makes even God cry.
And, I’m very sorry to hear that. But, the best thing you can do is to do what the Gospels tell us to do: you can still, in the midst of your heartache, 1) love them and 2) pray for them.
It doesn’t look like much, but it’s heroic virtue. And that’s how you can be holy. You can be holy because it takes a ‘holy person’ to pray for someone who is deliberately hurting them to that degree.
It takes a holy person to say, ‘Lord, bless my children tonight!’ when they’ve done something so terrible that they won’t let you see their children (your grand-children) , won’t let you see anyone, won’t come on a feast day, won’t come on Christmas…
It takes a holy person to say, ‘Lord, forgive them.’
It takes a holy person to wish them well. And I don’t want you to miss the opportunity of being holy right now. I really don’t. And I know that God doesn’t want you to…
And He went through the same thing.
One day He sat on a hill, looking down at the beauty of the Temple, and He said, ‘Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets and stonest them that are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered together thy children, as the hen doth gather her chickens under her wings, and thou wouldst not? [Hierusalem Hierusalem quae occidis prophetas et lapidas eos qui ad te missi sunt quotiens volui congregare filios tuos quemadmodum gallina congregat pullos suos sub alas et noluisti] (Matthew 23:37).
You need to pray for them! Why? Because, you are the one being hurt. See, your prayers matter more than if I prayed for them. Your prayers are more important. They are more important because you are the one that has the heartache. You are the one that they are offending. You are the one that they are hurting so bad.
So don’t miss this wonderful opportunity to be holy… as God is holy. Because, that is what God does for us.
When things are tough repeat the short prayer uttered by Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemani: “Not My will but Thy will be done. [non sicut ego volo sed sicut tu]” (Matthew 26:39).
Here’s the audio and visual link to Mother Angelica’s response to a mother hurt by being abandoned by her 4 adult children.
St. Gabriel the Archangel, the healer and patron of lovers, pray for us.
St. Monica, the mother of St. Augustine who prayed for his conversion and for the conversion of his father (Patricius), pray for us.
Our Lady of Joy, pray for us.
Most Sorrowful and Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us.
Dear Jesus, Thank You for all the graces You bestowed upon St. Gabriel, St. Monica, St. Augustine, Your Virgin Mother Mary, and all of Your Angels and Saints, have mercy on us.
Dear Jesus, Mary and Joseph, bless and protect us. Amen.